Easy Tips You Can Do to Boost Confidence in Your Sexuality

Being comfortable in one’s skin isn’t an easy task for everyone. It should be all the more so when you bare your skin for someone. Even though it seems that we are living in a sexually open and accepting society, the long history of restrictions and barriers to free sexuality still has its effects on many people. There are still many who have a problem with expressing their sexuality. 

Being sexually confident can have a positive effect on the balance of your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. It’s something you can’t develop overnight, but it’s something you can work out with your sexual partner. Read on as we share some easy tips that can help you boost confidence in your sexuality.

Improve your Sexual Communication

Much of our confidence in expressing our sexuality communicating sexual topics stems from the quality of communication we have with our parents regarding sex. A point worth considering shared by sexologists and experts from Hot Spot is that our parents are our first source of reference regarding sex and sexuality-related matters. Not all parents are open and comfortable about questions about sex and, oftentimes, we were reprimanded for asking outrageous questions about sex when we were kids. Such experiences often bring about a sense of shame and guilt that we carry into adulthood.

Overcoming the negative image and burden of sexual expression can be done through the easiest channel: communication. Communicating doesn’t involve or just minimally involves physical effort, but needs a strong emotional and mental resolve. Having an intimate partner whom you can connect with emotionally can allow you to comfortably test the waters of sexual communications. You can start out asking questions about your anatomy, what they like about your body, or which part of your body is sexually attractive. Gradually venture into more intimate and sexually provocative topics until you can confidently talk about sex at any time.

Comfortably Engage Physical and Emotional Connection With Your Partner

You don’t have to be always pressured into thinking that getting touchy and feely always leads to sex. However, a healthy process of transitioning into that scenario is to be comfortable with connecting with your partner in a physical, emotional, and non-sexual way. Being able to hug and kiss regularly, hold and caress each other takes your communication to another level. Some physical effort is being comfortably exerted through body language and physical contact between you and your partner, which makes you confident about your own body and your partner’s as well. Establishing a good level of comfort with each other’s body can also help you express thoughts and emotions more effectively and improve your emotional bond. When you are comfortable with everyday close contact, transitioning into intimate and sexual can be easy and smooth for both you and your partner.

Know and Love Yourself on a More Intimate Level

We all may have experienced looking at ourselves naked in the mirror at least once in our lives. This is a good way of examining our bodies physically and objectively. However, most of us fail to take more opportunities to look at ourselves in the mirror for a long time to reflect on what we feel about our bodies. We can always go deeper than knowing what we like and dislike about our bodies. We can touch certain parts of our bodies and discover their sensitivity and how they can enhance your sexual experience. Do you have a certain part of your body that you like to be touched? Can touching these body parts turn you on? Does paying attention to these areas improve your lovemaking experience? There are many questions you can ask that you can also answer yourself if you get to intimately examine your body. Don’t be afraid to pleasure yourself and masturbate sometimes. These are healthy ways of knowing yourself intimately and what are the sensations that turn you on.

Think Positively  

Positive thinking can do a lot of wonders when it comes to sexuality. It makes you look at sex from a different perspective and in a positive light. This is important in building your confidence as you seek to further improve your sexual experience as well as your partner’s. There might be setbacks and negativity while you experiment with your sexuality, but positivity can help you bounce back and pursue the things you enjoy about your sexuality. Your positive sexual outlook can spill into your relationship with your partner. You develop a deeper sense of understanding about yourself and the sexual needs and wants of your partner. As a result, it becomes easier for both of you to develop routines, or find situations that can get you in the mood. 

Loving yourself more and learning to refuse to let others define who you are, especially when it comes to sexuality is something you can achieve. A loving and understanding partner is important to help you improve your sexual confidence. Communication is key to any relationship and using it effectively also helps you get a solid foothold for building confidence in your sexuality. Always remember that you are a unique person with unique sexuality. Embrace that uniqueness and enjoy it.