What to Do When Family Life Goes Wrong

Claire Small
Authored by Claire Small
Posted Tuesday, August 4, 2020 - 6:02am

Although you might want to believe in the fairy tales of familial bliss and wedded happy-ever-afters, this is not always the case. In fact, even the happiest of families may need to confront some of the most common problems that can affect your life together. From coping with a sudden illness or declining finances to dealing with divorce and separation, here are some of the steps that you should consider when your family is struggling with a difficult issue.

  1. Communicate with Your Spouse

One of the first steps that you should take if you believe that family problems are affecting your marriage, or if you are worried about climbing what may seem like an insurmountable issue, is to communicate with your spouse. Good communication techniques are key to make sure that both parties are on the same page. They will also allow you to develop a step-by-step plan that will help you overcome the issue together. This is also important to make sure that you each have each other’s emotional support.

  1. Consider Mediation and Couples Therapy

If the issue in your family life is causing a rift between you as a couple, or if you are thinking that separation is the only option, you should first consider attending meditation or couples therapy. This type of counselling can allow you each to improve your communication and to discuss the issue in a calm and non-biased way, with a professional at hand to guide you through the process.

  1. Keep Your Kids Involved

Whatever family issue that you are confronting, kids can sometimes feel overwhelmed or forgotten amid the proceedings, even if you are distancing them from the problem to protect them. Instead, the best step that you can take is to involve your kids in some way as this will make them feel like they have a say. This includes asking them who they want to live with during a divorce or being realistic with them when you are discussing an illness in the family.

  1. Seek Legal Help

However, there are problems that you may find difficult to resolve without the expertise of a lawyer, and you should not be afraid to discuss your family life with them before you take any next steps. For instance, the family law solicitors at Grant Stephens Family Law are trained in all sorts of common issues, such as custody battles, divorces involving children, and unfair allegations made against one parent by the other.

  1. Change Your Lifestyle

The problem within your family life may also be caused by a certain aspect of your lifestyle. For instance, divorces and separations could be due to a lack of communication between partners or an absence of time together. If possible, you should find a way to change your lifestyle for the better and instil good habits. This includes cutting your expenditure, spending more time with the kids and your other half, and making affection and respect a priority.

  1. Look at Government Support

However, legal support is not the only support that you may be able to access. Before you take any drastic actions, it is important to look at the services the government offers, especially if you are in need of financial support. Additionally, many charities can also provide help, such as counselling services, to families that are struggling.  

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